“I forgive people who hurt me and give people a second chance. I put my sadness behind me and move forward”.

Forgiveness means letting go of hard feelings like anger, sadness, or frustration that happen when you or someone else makes a mistake. It’s saying “Thank you” or “That’s okay” when someone apologises and not staying upset about what they did. It’s having patience with yourself and others, and recognising that no one is perfect—everyone makes mistakes.  It’s letting go of hurt feelings, and moving ahead, ready to do things. It doesn’t mean that all of a sudden what someone did doesn’t hurt or isn’t wrong. It means that you find it in your heart to give the person another chance.

In many ways Forgiveness is about taking power back by “flipping” the mood/situation. I use the analogy of the sparkle jars. Harbouring hurt or anger as a result of someone hurting your feelings can feel like a whirlwind in your tummy but as soon as you forgive it can lead to a sense of calm like when the sparkles fall to the bottom of the jar.

Forgiveness comes within the “Relationships” part of our PERMA model because being able to forgive those around you is one of the building blocks to successful friendship.

Little Life Message: The best revenge is to move on and find your happy.

Forgiveness Activities:

• Take 20 minutes and write about the personal benefits that resulted from a negative incident.
• Think of someone who wronged you recently. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their perspective.
• Write a forgiveness letter. You don’t have to send it, but read it to yourself each day for a week.
• If someone hurts or upsets you, try to understand things from their perspective, then think about whether your reaction is hurting them or you.
• Think about all of the picture story books that have at their core, the message of the importance of being able to forgive. Write a list and send to Mrs Kebbell to add to the list on this blog!

Blue Sky, Yellow Kite is a favourite of mine and as I read it I like to stop and infer the many emotions that the characters in this book are feeling due to the actions of the other person.

Elmo didn’t mean to…

I love my new toy by Mo Willems

Enemy Pie by Derek Munson

People who have the character strength of “Creativity” in abundance are people who come up with new and helpful ideas and ways of doing things.

Creativity comes within the “Meaning” arm of our PERMA wellbeing starfish.

Creativity means thinking of new ways to do things. When faced with a problem, creative people define the issue clearly and then come up with multiple solutions.

There are so many different ways in which you can be creative. These includes writing (developing ideas), art, music, craft and even using an everyday household object in a new way.

“The Whisper” is a book about a girl who lets her imagination run wild.

“The Girl Who Thought in Pictures” is about Temple Grandin, a scientist whose autism is a strength that gives her the ability to think differently (creatively). This enables her to solve some important problems related to treating and handling cattle in a compassionate and humane way. She has won many awards for her work and study in this area and there is even a film based on her life story.

This picture story book is based on her life.

“Ish” by Peter Reynolds, is another picture story book about a boy with a ctreative mind.

I love the creative ways that the children in this clip are able to think of to solve problems

Creativity is not just about making something, it is a way fo thinking to solve problem (for older students).

You can reflect on this strength by asking yourself:

In what situations are you most creative?

How does creativity help you to solve problems?

What holds you back from expressing your creativity?

WHAT IS CURIOSITY?

People who are curious are interested in new experiences. They are also keen to learn and build their knowledge. Curiosity means looking forward to finding answers, learning new facts and having experiences such as visiting a new place or researching an area of interest. It can also mean finding out about someone, learning something new or exploring new ideas, activities or experiences.

“I want to explore and find out new things”

People who are curious are interested in learning more about anything and everything. They are always asking questions and find all subjects and topics fascinating. They like exploration and discovery.

Curiosity comes within the Engagement area of our PERMA model because people who are curious are always asking questions and learning.

Key Concepts:

There are two key components to curious individuals: They are interested in exploring new ideas, activities and experiences, and they also have a strong desire to increase their own personal knowledge.

Benefits:

Curiosity fuels intrinsic motivation to learn
Curiosity brings pleasure and enhances memory
Curious people have more developed cognitive skills; they learn more and
learn better.

Luke’s Way Of Looking

Sesame Street – “Follow Your Curiosity!”

“Dear Greenpeace” is about a curious girls who writes letters to find the asnwers to her questions.

Families talking about curiosity and wonder

Persistence and the Growth Mindset sit within the “Accomplishment” arm of our PERMA Starfish.

Supporting this, our Accomplishment wellbeing statements are, I will…

• think positive thoughts and not give up
• challenge myself
• always do the best I can
• have a growth mindset
• learn from my mistakes
• believe in myself
• achieve my personal best and not compare myself to others and
• make a plan and work hard to achieve my goals.

Persistence is when you continue to do something even though it is difficult

Growth Mindset is the belief that intelligence improves through study and practice. Having a growth mindset means that you see challenges as opportunities to grow and understanding that you can improve your abilities by working hard. It means that instead of saying; “I can’t do it”, you say, “I can’t do it YET!”

“The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes”

This clip compares two seeds and shows how the growth of one is more successful than the other. Can you explain why?

This picture story book “Your Fanstastic, Elastic Brain”, shows how your brain works with a growth mindset.

Growth & Fixed Mindsets explained