Self Control
means: “I can control my emotions, thoughts and actions. I think carefully about how I behave”.
Self-control is controlling one’s own responses so they align with short and long-term goals.
Two important types of self-control for students are work self-control and interpersonal self-control. Having work self-control allows you to stick with your long-term goals and stay focused on a task that may be difficult or even boring. (This is the sort of self-control that also helps you stick to an exercise plan or make healthy eating choices in the face of temptation.) Interpersonal self-control allows you to maintain your temper, hold back from interrupting, and respond to others in ways that are socially appropriate.
Someone displaying self-control can delay a short-term temptation to play games on the computer if it interferes with her long-term aspiration to do her homework each night. Someone with high self-control who aims to run a marathon will not press the alarm clock’s snooze button on the morning he scheduled a training run. In this way, self-control is linked to grit, growth mindset, and optimism.
At school, demonstrating self-control could involve:
– Coming to class with everything needed to get to work rather than being unprepared
– Remembering and following directions rather than needing to be reminded
– Getting to work right away rather than procrastinating
– Paying attention rather than getting distracted
Interpersonally, demonstrating self-control could involve: – Allowing others to speak rather than interrupting
– Being polite to all, even when stressed or angry
-Not losing your temper- Remaining calm, even when criticised or otherwise provoked, rather than losing your temper